Writing is probably the most proper form of masochism outside of having the flesh on your back ripped open by leather whips or having your balls stepped on in seven inch, thigh high, leather heels. It’s one of those things where you’re perpetually trying to reach these goals that you’re incapable of. You want to take everything you love about everything that has ever influenced you and package it all into one complete, perfect project. Something that speaks towards everybody’s worldview while vibrating with meaning, without plot holes, continuity issues, etc. Neurotically laboring over whether these are the right words or if there is a more poignant way to say things. Stressing about variety. Moving things around. Adding. Subtracting. Not reaching for the phone or opening up a new tab i
https://img.huffingtonpost.com/asset/5bbfb4f4220000bb01dd9b20.jpeg?ops=1910_1000 BROOKLYN ― I am walking down the street to Defonte’s. I need a sandwich.This is a pilgrimage of sorts. It’s the longest but most rewarding walk I’ll take this week, a week in which I have a different classic sandwich every day. Today is Saturday ― Defonte’s Day ― so I’m willing to put in the extra work.You see, Defonte’s offers the finest Italian hero in the five boroughs of New York, full-stop. If anyone tells you it’s Alidoro, or some other hip-ass spot in SoHo, they’ve never left Manhattan and aren’t to be trusted. You have to schlep south to Red Hook for anything like the Nicky Special: ham, capicola, salami, provolone, fried eggplant, hot salad, mushrooms, lettuce, tomato, oil and vinegar, all on a ma
Aries (March 21-April 19) As an Aries, you would risk everything for the thrill of adventure. You are constantly in pursuit of greatness and excitement. Therefore, you will risk it all for a new start and a new challenge. Taurus (April 20-May 20) You would risk it all for pleasure and love. As a Taurus, you are drawn to the finer things in life. Therefore, you would put everything on the line to indulge in your most valued pleasures. Gemini (May 21-June 20) As a Gemini, you would risk it all for spontaneity and fun. You have this spectacular nervous energy that you are always so eager to burn off. As a result, you would risk everything for a good time and even better memories. Cancer (June 21-July 22) You would risk it all for a deep connection and an intense love. As a Cancer, you p...
I know some of you want someone to date that is easy to be with; Some girl you can just start a relationship with without much effort, but you see with the broken girls, you need to work for us. You see we are the ones who have been through a lot; we are the ones who might appear to be okay, but deep down we are hurting. We are the broken ones, the ones who have been through too much heartbreak, too much fighting. We are the ones who have tried and tried to make other relationships work, try to make our friends better people, try to make our families work it out. But no matter how hard we try, we are simply not enough to change other people. We are the ones who give it all to other people and end up not getting the same in return. We are the ones who are insecure because the ones we hav
https://img.huffingtonpost.com/asset/5bc5151c2400002f025793c8.jpeg?cache=pkmtuf6pe7&ops=1910_1000 On Monday, Sen. Elizabeth Warren (D-Mass.) released a DNA test report that found “strong evidence” that she has a Native American ancestor six to 10 generations back. Her genetic analysis was done by Carlos Bustamante, a geneticist at Stanford University and a MacArthur fellow who has served as an adviser for the commercial DNA testing companies 23andMe and Ancestry.com. “This is a pretty convincing report that there is a Native American ancestor sometime during the early 19th century,” said Beth Shapiro, a professor of ecology and evolutionary biology at the University of California, Santa Cruz. While the reliability of commercial ancestry testing kits has been called into question
Because missing someone is hard. When someone you love, suddenly leave your life, there will forever be a void. When someone is gone, you can no longer physically see them. You cannot reach out to them. You may feel them spiritually, but they are gone. And that’s devastating. A year after they’re gone, try to celebrate them. Try not to cry so many sad tears. Try to remember the happy memories. The person they were. Tell stories. Reminisce with a smile, and a laugh. A year after they’re gone, some of the memories may start to fade. Write them down. Look at pictures. Be thankful for the time you had. It’s hard to put loss into words. 365 days without someone. A world without the one you love. Every day is an adjustment. Some morning you wake up with a pit in your stomach. There are moment
https://img.huffingtonpost.com/asset/5bc4bfe124000031025793af.jpeg?ops=1910_1000 When ravers encounter Bradley Gunn on a dance floor in Bristol, England, they often ask him what he’s “on” ― and if they can have some. “We’ve just been drinking water all night,” he tells them. Then they ask him how that’s possible, since he’s been dancing for six hours. “Well, yeah, because the music is good,” he says. Gunn, 23, doesn’t need any mood-altering substances to enjoy a rave. In fact, an all-night dance party is one of the few places where he doesn’t need to adjust his behavior ― something that often feels like a necessary burden for Gunn, who has Asperger’s syndrome. But when he began raving, “there was no mention of Asperger’s at all,” he recently told HuffPost. “I knew because of the s
If you want to get what you merit from a partnership, you must first understand your own worth as a person. Once you come into your own as a woman and you’re comfortable asking for what you need, you no longer accept less. You refuse to settle and you part ways with anyone who does not give you exactly what you deserve. If you’ve grown into your own heart and soul, this is what you expect to receive in your next relationship: 1. Decency. This should go without saying, but it often doesn’t. You put up with so much indecent behavior in the past that you finally said, enough. You are a living, breathing, feeling human being who treats others well. You deserve the same in return, but often your kindness is treated as weakness. No longer do you allow anyone to trample your heart. You settle